Marriage might have been a private relationship in the past,
but in this century it has become a public show owing to the fact that during the
ceremony, the public is forced to witnesses of love solemn vows between the
couples, and also contribute with gifts to celebrate the couple or purchase of
uniform clothing to colour the occasion.
These glamorous activities have become too attractive for
the ignorant to overlook before deciding to step into marriage, thus many are
roped into the once noble institution as victims in order not to be left out of
what is now considered an achievement, instead of making choices that could
open their lives to the vista of self fulfillment.
There are many opinions on the matter already but here are
six genuine Ways to help one get it right.
WALKOUT
Have the courage to say no to someone, who will make your
life a living hell in spite of the shame and pain the moment might cause you
during courtship. It is far better to enjoy a marriage relationship than to
endure one. And early bad signals should enable you see the direction the
relationship will head in future. Oftentimes people believe that because the
courtship has gone too far with too many people aware of it, so they shy away
from the realities and plunge into an uncertain destiny just to make others
happy. You should understand that no matter how far you have gone on a wrong
road, it will never take you to the right destination.
BE YOU
Never pretend to be what cannot afford to keep up with
during marriage. That it is now normal to pretend and fake who you are not
before marriage, does not cushion the unnecessary heartaches and regrets when
the ceremony is over. You may be able to borrow to marry but you cannot borrow
to sustain a marriage. Marry your type so that if you both are aspiring, you
can grow together. Do not deceive
yourself that you are marrying the person because you have seen prospects in
them; they may never materialize in your lifetime. Many have gnashed their
teeth in regret at their miscalculations.
BE REALISTIC
Be realistic with your expectations of any human being
because we are all limited. Do not set standards that your partner cannot reach
because you are not capable of changing another human being. You can not
guarantee that the person you are marrying will change into the type you are
dreaming of after marriage, so marry the personality you are meeting at the
moment, and if loving you enables them improve better than you meet them, it is
your luck. Forecasting which direction a human being will change to is attempting
to do the impossible. Controlling will result in misery.
MARRIAGE IS LIFELONG
Understand that marriage is supposed to be a lifetime
relationship and backing out when it doesn't work is not part of the vow. A vow
is sacred and binds those who take it for the purpose it was undertaken.
No marriage will be without challenges and under normal
circumstances, a successful marriage is not the one that does not have any
storms to weather, but rather the one that the couples in it knew that they
took an everlasting vow to work through the challenges and make one another
better or accept to live with what cannot be changed. It was always a personal decision to choose
whom the vow was made with.
A SOCIETY WEDDING IS
NOT COMPULSORY
If you both cannot afford a society wedding or one party
does not agree with the now prestigious way of saying "I do", and you
love and trust that the fellow is the one, please swallow your pride and do a
low profile ceremony where both your families to willingly represent. They are
all the witnesses that are necessary to enable you answer the coveted name
"married". The rest is just a crowd to puff your ego.There are more tips that could help you out there and reading alone will not get you the desired result. Applying what you gather will.
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